FieldSide Coaching
When Playing Time Gets Hard
A five-step framework to help you slow down, get clear, and know what's yours to do next.
A five-step framework to help you slow down, get clear, and know what's yours to do next.
You're at the game. You expected to see your child on the field.
But they're still on the bench.
Your mind starts going. Why aren't they in? Did something happen? Should I say something?
And underneath all of that, that knot. The one that sits in your chest and doesn't let go.
At times, I reacted before I understood what was happening. Because I cared, and I didn't have a way to slow down.
Maybe you know that feeling too.
You don't need to know why your child isn't playing to get through this moment well. You just need a way to get clear about what's yours to do next.
Five steps. One way back to clarity.
Five steps you can return to, in order, whenever playing time gets hard.
Name what is certain. Stop there. Separate what is happening from the story your mind may already be building around it.
Make room for it before you make this yours. Your child may be experiencing the situation differently than you expect.
Name it and look at what is behind it, before automatically acting on that urge.
Look underneath the action and ask what outcome you're reaching for.
Decide from clarity, not reaction. PAUSE doesn't make the decision for you. It gives you a way to get clear enough to make it yourself.
A 12-minute coaching video and a 7-page companion guide, built around the PAUSE framework.
Instant digital access. Watch in one sitting, then return to the guide whenever playing time gets hard.
You may still not know why your child isn't playing. But you'll know what's yours to do next.
I spent 13 years on the sidelines of competitive youth soccer. I remember the knot. I remember the moments I reacted before I was clear about what was actually mine to do.
I'm a life coach who works with parents of competitive youth soccer players. I created PAUSE because I wish I'd had it back then.
Heike McGlothern
No. And that's intentional. In most playing-time situations, you don't know the full picture. What this guide does is help you get clear about what you do know, what you're assuming, and what is yours to do with that, so you can make a thoughtful decision rather than react to the uncertainty.
No. PAUSE doesn't make that decision for you, and it doesn't need to. What it does is help you understand why you want to contact the coach, what you're hoping to make happen, and help you get clearer about whether contacting the coach is yours to do next. That clarity will help you decide for yourself.
Yes. PAUSE isn't tied to a specific age group. It's designed for parents of competitive youth soccer players when playing time becomes a meaningful part of the experience. If playing time has become hard for you to navigate as a parent, the framework can help you slow down and get clearer about what is yours to do next.
Most sideline guidance focuses on what to do or not do on the outside. PAUSE starts somewhere different. It helps you look at what you actually know, make room for your child's experience, understand your urge to act, and see what you're trying to make happen, before getting clear about what is yours to do next.
You'll get instant digital access the moment your purchase is complete. The video and the companion guide will be available for you to start right away.
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